Family, I had been opening this style of sermon with a
definition from a dictionary then commenting on my feelings and
hoping to make you think about what the word ment to you and how
it fit into your life. I’m approaching this on a little
I believe in
the present society the meaning for the word family has changed.
The traditional family seems to have almost gone away. The
thought of people all connected through a blood line is only one
part of family. Family seems to have hinged around marriage.
That union of two people in a bond of love until they can’t live
with each other so they divorce. Then associated with the
children/pets that they had, being divided up with what seems
like the best method to punish all of those concerned.
introduce step family or adopted family. Then tie it up with a
possible second marriage to be followed by a second divorce.
Then well, when do the family values become a part of it all. I
was raised by my Mother and Father until the day I joined the
Air Force. I didn’t come from a “broken” home. My parents later
divorced. I think they just stayed together for the kids. Both
are much happier now. I love them I think they did a better then
average job raising me. We were not rich I knew when I got out
of high school that there was not money for college. I
celebrated my 18th birthday graduating from basic
When I grew
up one side of the extended family didn’t like the other side of
the extended family. To the point that there were separate areas
for each at holidays. I don’t think that was really family.
with other people that made friends family. Awarding them titles
like “uncle” or “aunt”. They earned those titles through loyalty
to the family. “The Family” reminds you of The Manson “Family”
or the Mob. Gangs tell members we’re your family now. In those
thoughts the idea of family is associated power and control. Did
the traditional family have this “power and control”? Children
obeyed out of fear / respect? Then the beatings had to stop then
there was the time out or the old stand by emotional pain and
guilt. What were/are what you consider family values? Family
traditions? Then lets throw culture into the mix. What do you
think are examples of a family values. The these also cultural
values? Here is and example: A young man is picking up a young
lady from her residence, He has met her parents on another
occasion, in a middle class white culture it is not appropriate
for him to pull up and honk the horn for her to come out. In an
african/american culture there is often not an issue with this
wondering back to the original question what makes a family?
Blood? Values? Traditions? Love? People that raised you? Can pet
be part of your family?
about what it means to you and why. Is that what you want it to
mean to your children?